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Why You Should Cancel That Big Wedding and Save the Money for Anniversary Milestones
I’ve decided to get married. At 43 and having had enough relationships behind me, it is time to settle. After all, it isn’t easy to find someone who can put up with my writer’s temperament and entrepreneur’s risk taking lifestyle — and still want to share the rest of my life with me.
But one thing troubles me.
And this is yet another one of those conventional logic issues that made little sense to my somewhat unconventional mind.
Why are weddings such big affairs?
Traditional foolery
Across customs and culture, weddings are typically grand affairs. Relatives and friends come, intricate ceremonies are conducted, the hosts serve abundant food and drinks, and guests come bearing expensive gifts.
When you think about it, in most traditions, weddings are elaborate and extensive because it signifies a coming of age — your children have finally grown up and are moving on to another important stage of their lives. It does justify getting everyone you know together to sing and dance and feast in joy.
